I remember once, when I worked at an after school club with kids from 5-9 years old. I was in charge of the new kids who came from kindergarten, and was starting in school, and one of the boys was... Actually I don't know exactly where he was from, but he looked like he came from Greenland or maybe had some Indian roots. Anyways! He was taught from home, that men (and apparently boys as well) don't take directions from women. And since most pedagogues are women, we had some of them in that institution as well..
Every time we told the boy to go somewhere, or tried to explain the rules to him, he looked at us, and then he walk along, like nothing happened. He completely ignored us. So we had a talk with the boys father, who didn't understand the problem.. He taught it was totally normal, not to care about what women says. The root to where the boy's attitude was found, but unfortunately adults are a lot more difficult to chance than kids! So it took a very long talk, to make him understand, that it is not okay to think that way, and that he had to talk with his son about it, because one of the female pedagogues was going to tell him A LOT of things, and correct him A LOT of times, in the following period, and then the boy had to listen and do what was told. After a while, we got through to the father, and after a couple of weeks, the boy actually understood it as well.
It was very difficult to be around the boy and his father, at first, because I was so provoked by their way of thinking. But after a while, I started to realise that I had to be professional, and not take it personal, and I have used that experience a lot of times since.
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